Discover the Joy of Being Content in Your Own Company
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Chapter 1: Embracing Solitude
For a long time, I dreaded the idea of being alone. It wasn't the thought of being single that troubled me, but rather the notion of spending a day or evening by myself. The silence amplified my thoughts, which I found intimidating.
I often felt that I was alone because everyone else had their own social lives, leaving me as the odd one out. This led me to perceive my solitude as a punishment, though I couldn't pinpoint why I felt this way. I frequently met others who shared this viewpoint; they would refuse to take a stroll alone, deeming it "boring."
I completely understood their mindset. Declaring something as boring was often just a facade, a way to mask the deeper feeling that I should be engaging in social activities instead of being by myself. The pressure to maintain a vibrant social life was overwhelming.
Why is solitude beneficial?
It’s widely acknowledged that spending time alone can be incredibly advantageous. Not only can it foster creativity and enhance productivity, but it also offers a chance for introspection and self-discovery—elements that can be immensely beneficial in the long run.
How can we truly understand ourselves if we never give our minds the opportunity to explore? How can we discern our desires if we continually let others influence our choices?
The Turning Point in My Journey
Despite recognizing the importance of solitude, it took me an unacceptably long time to shift my mindset from victimhood to independence.
Eventually, I realized two crucial points:
- I would inevitably face periods of solitude in life, so it was vital to learn to appreciate it.
- If I made a conscious effort to spend time alone, I could start to view it as a positive experience.
I could choose what to watch on TV, go for walks wherever I pleased, enjoy podcasts or audiobooks, connect with friends and family, and most importantly, create a list of activities that I could enjoy solo.
Here are some initial suggestions for appreciating your own company:
Plan Ahead
Start by acknowledging that you have the option to spend time alone, and make it a priority since it’s beneficial for your well-being! To avoid feeling like you’re left with no other choice, plan your day or evening in advance so you can genuinely look forward to it.
Frequent Places with Other Solitary Individuals
Coffee shops are perfect spots to find others who are also enjoying time alone. Sit by yourself while soaking in the lively atmosphere filled with conversations.
Embark on Solo Day Trips
Discover your happy places where solitude feels refreshing. Personally, I found joy at the observatory level of the Tate Modern and at the Wellcome Collection restaurant in Euston. On weekends, I would treat myself to these spaces, accompanied by a book and a coffee, and I found tranquility.
Don’t Escape Every Weekend
When I first moved to a new city, I often felt the urge to return to my parents’ home each weekend if I had no plans. This only reinforced my fear of solitude. However, when I began making plans for myself instead of fleeing, I found enjoyment in my own company.
Take Yourself for a Walk
Avoiding walks due to boredom is simply not a valid excuse. Trust me, walking is beneficial for your mental health, especially when you have some engaging podcasts queued up to listen to.
Seek Inspiration from Others
There are numerous articles and podcasts discussing the value of spending time alone. Additionally, listen to friends and family—some of them may appreciate their solitude and can offer excellent tips, inspiration, and motivation.
Believe me, once you start embracing your own company, you'll find it hard to stop. You might even find yourself declining a friend's invitation simply because you’re looking forward to your own solo movie night.
Chapter 2: Video Insights into Enjoying Your Own Company
To explore more about enjoying your own company, check out these insightful videos:
This video discusses practical strategies for finding joy in your own company and offers tips on how to enjoy being by yourself.
In this video, the speaker delves into overcoming loneliness, shifting your mindset, and discovering hobbies that bring you joy in solitude.
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