Navigating Graduation: 20 Crucial Lessons Learned
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Chapter 1: The Unconventional Journey
At the age of 18, I found myself with a university degree, an achievement made possible by the rigorous discipline of studying for eight hours each day, supported by private tutors during my formative years. When I arrived at the university, I requested assessments to validate my readiness to advance, and after interviews with four professors, I was permitted to enroll in my final semester. Remarkably, I graduated within six months.
However, my graduation was devoid of celebration. A gasoline crisis in my country halted many activities, including the graduation ceremony. I was given the choice to either wait a few months for the event or collect my diploma from the secretary. Living in a small room in a city where I had no friends and having my heart set on someone who was already taken, I chose to take my degree and leave. No one acknowledged my early graduation.
Interestingly, I faced a contrasting experience in high school. My grades were so poor that I had to take exams during the vacation period in hopes of graduating with my peers, but I ultimately failed to do so. When I finally completed high school, I was informed to retrieve my degree from the secretary, as I was not permitted to attend the ceremony. Again, there was no congratulations for my late achievement.
To this day, I have never donned a cap and gown. In high school, I was denied this opportunity due to my lack of effort, and in college, circumstances prevented it. Sometimes, I feel my college experience remains incomplete, yet I find clarity when reflecting on these 20 vital lessons regarding graduation.
Pursue Knowledge for Passion, Not Prestige
Education should stem from genuine interest, not the desire to impress others.
Don’t Study for Your Parents’ Approval
My dedication to music stemmed from personal obsession rather than parental expectations.
Self-Education is Key
If you don’t seek knowledge independently, you’re deceiving yourself.
Seek Obsession Before Starting
Ensure you are passionately driven before embarking on a new journey.
Commit to Completion
Make sure you are ready to see your endeavor through to the end.
Understand Motivation vs. Laziness
Realize that lack of motivation can be mistaken for laziness.
Let Go of Control
Many factors beyond your control can influence your path to graduation.
Prior Knowledge is Crucial
Familiarize yourself with your chosen career path before diving in.
Self-Study is Essential
Ensure you have a foundational understanding of what you wish to pursue.
Embrace Challenges
Be prepared for difficulties, including living independently or making sacrifices.
Humility is Important
Remember that there will always be someone better than you.
Avoid Self-Criticism
Recognize that you will always excel compared to others.
College is Not Mandatory
Evaluate whether a degree is essential for your desired career.
Consider Alternatives
Reflect on whether a short intensive course could suffice instead of a lengthy degree.
Everyone’s Journey is Unique
Understand that not everyone experiences college in the same way.
Don’t Seek Validation
Recognition should not be your primary goal; pursue your passion instead.
Avoid Mindless Studying
Studying solely to fit in is a waste of time and resources.
Focus on Your Own Life
Don’t dwell on past relationships; prioritize your well-being and future.
Attend Classes Regularly
If you find yourself frequently absent, reconsider your commitment to your education.
Create Your Own Path
While my experiences are shared here, it’s crucial for you to carve out your own journey.
Reflecting on my graduation day, I realize I once craved the validation that comes with wearing a cap and gown. The impact of receiving my diploma in an office, despite being a top student, cannot be overlooked. At 18, I was still grappling with family dynamics; my parents had divorced, and I faced a choice between living with my mother or grandmother, as my father had started a new family.
In college, I found solace from these challenges, as my choice to study in a different state distanced me from my family’s complexities. However, I ultimately had to confront the reality of returning home.
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Chapter 2: Words of Wisdom from a Leader
The "University of Texas at Austin 2014 Commencement Address" delivered by Admiral William H. McRaven shares invaluable insights on leadership and resilience that resonate with graduates and beyond.