Understanding the Narcissist's Constant Need for Validation
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Chapter 1: The Core of Narcissistic Behavior
Narcissists thrive on their need to feel good, a compulsion driven by their internal sense of shame. This behavior is fundamentally linked to their psychological condition.
Their self-worth is intricately tied to how they perceive themselves through the eyes of others.
Section 1.1: The Thrill of Lovebombing
One of the most intoxicating experiences for a narcissist is lovebombing. This phenomenon occurs when they enter a new relationship, believing they've discovered someone ideal.
Narcissists tend to idealize their partners, viewing them as a refreshing presence who wholeheartedly believes in their perfection.
You're the source of their inflated sense of self, someone who fills their ego with admiration and adoration.
Your affection serves as a powerful validation, making them feel extraordinary, loved, and valuable, which in turn, is the most euphoric state they can experience.
A new romantic interest can significantly boost a narcissist's self-esteem, providing them with an emotional high that nothing else can replicate.
Subsection 1.1.1: The Role of Online Validation
Section 1.2: The Allure of Cheating and Chat Sites
In many ways, engaging with chat sites or infidelity mirrors the excitement of a new love interest. However, this validation is often fleeting.
The thrill is compounded when the narcissist's partner is left at home, feeling anxious and desperate to connect.
When blocked or dismissed, the narcissist often projects blame onto their partner, claiming their actions are a result of their partner's "craziness."
This emotional boost comes from two sources: the excitement of flirtation with another person and the validation they receive from their partner's distress.
Chapter 2: The Contrast of Others' Pain
Narcissists derive pleasure from the suffering of others. They often relish the opportunity to contrast their own highs with the lows of those around them.
This emotional uplift stems from devaluing others, creating a stark difference that reinforces their self-image.
By witnessing others' struggles, narcissists feel elevated and superior, further feeding their need for validation.
Ultimately, these behaviors are a continuous cycle for narcissists, providing them with the sense of value they desperately need to avoid sinking into profound depression.
The first video titled "Narcissists NEED You To Feel Unworthy" delves into how narcissists manipulate their partners to maintain their self-esteem. It explains the dynamics of lovebombing and emotional dependency in relationships.
The second video "You feel so bad because the narcissist has to feel so good" discusses the emotional turmoil caused by narcissistic relationships and highlights the impact of their need for validation on their partners.