Applying the Four Agreements to Enhance Your Career Journey
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Chapter 1: Introduction to the Four Agreements
A few years ago, I delved into "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz, a renowned Mexican author. I found the four core principles so impactful that I jotted them down on a small note and placed it on my bathroom mirror—yes, I confess I’m one of those individuals! These agreements serve as daily reminders to uphold the values we commit to ourselves. The author shares vivid anecdotes and practical applications for each agreement in our everyday lives.
In this article, I aim to illustrate how these four agreements have fostered tranquility and confidence throughout my journey in technology.
The Four Agreements:
- Be impeccable with your word
- Don’t take anything personally
- Don’t make assumptions
- Always do your best
These insights from Ruiz are not just applicable to personal life; they can also guide our professional paths, helping us stay true to our values while actively pursuing our career goals.
Section 1.1: Be Impeccable with Your Word
Let’s explore the significance of being impeccable with your word.
Words wield more influence than we often recognize. When we belittle ourselves or express sentiments like "I'm not capable," our minds internalize these messages as truth. It’s crucial to monitor our self-talk.
Your words hold power.
Early in my career, when I faced unrecognized efforts or received less-than-stellar feedback, I would harshly criticize myself, questioning my place in the workplace. It took therapy for me to learn the importance of self-compassion. Now, I frame feedback positively: "Great! I’ll adjust this and that, and next time, it will improve."
Being impeccable means honoring your truth. It involves refraining from self-judgment and avoiding statements that contradict your core beliefs and values. The workplace can be demanding, so it’s vital to maintain your identity amidst external pressures.
Section 1.2: Don’t Take Anything Personally
"Easier said than done," I know. Feedback can often stem from a manager’s bad day or be a critique of a project. Remember, it’s not a reflection of your worth as a person; it's about the work you deliver.
For an extended period, I struggled to separate my identity from my job title. I realized that external validation should not dictate my self-esteem or mood. This understanding took time, but it also applies to our personal lives.
If you find yourself taking things personally, consider the next agreement: Don’t make assumptions.
Section 1.3: Don’t Make Assumptions
Our minds can be relentless, often leading us to assume we understand others without asking. This tendency can damage relationships and create misunderstandings in a professional setting.
As a woman, often the sole representative in a room filled with men, I sometimes hesitated to speak up. I would think, "These men have been doing this for ages; who am I to suggest something new?"
Over time, I learned that if I didn't voice my thoughts:
- Nobody would advocate for me.
- My unclear tasks would linger.
- Expectations would misalign.
- Projects would falter.
I've lost count of how many times colleagues remarked, "You ask a lot of questions, don't you, Mariana?" My response? "That's part of my job!" Always remember to ask and clarify—never assume.
Section 1.4: Always Do Your Best
Striving to do your best doesn’t equate to sacrificing personal time for work. It means dedicating your focus and effort to the present moment. Relish the journey rather than fixating on the end goal.
Once, while discussing my fear of presenting incorrect data, my mentor reassured me, "If something’s off in your presentation, it can spark valuable discussions with the client." This perspective helped me combat imposter syndrome.
I remind myself, "Criticism may come, but I’m offering my best based on my current knowledge and resources. I hope the future version of myself looks back with pride."
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Chapter 2: Video Insights on the Four Agreements
In this section, we will delve into video content that complements the principles discussed.
The first video titled "THE FOUR AGREEMENTS by Don Miguel Ruiz | Core Message" distills the essence of the Four Agreements, providing viewers with profound insights into applying these principles in daily life.
The second video, "Book Therapy: The Four Agreements," explores the transformative potential of these agreements, illustrating how they can enhance personal and professional growth.