Discover True Happiness by Asking Yourself These 7 Questions
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Chapter 1: Understanding Life's Challenges
Life can sometimes feel overwhelming.
Some days, the act of waking up seems daunting. The anticipation of another day filled with routine tasks and family expectations can leave you feeling uninspired. This was the reality I faced several years ago. I was in a job that had lost its appeal, struggling with aspects that no longer fulfilled me. My workplace was toxic, with a boss who contributed to my dissatisfaction. I felt trapped by a contract and familial obligations, unable to leave.
Additionally, I was navigating complex family dynamics. Caught in a web of demands from my children, ex-spouse, father, and husband, it felt like I was constantly trying to please everyone but myself. This lack of boundaries led to my downfall as a people pleaser.
One Day I Had an Epiphany!
Everything came to a head during a significant family crisis, prompting a realization: it was impossible to make everyone happy. I could only control my own actions and reactions. By addressing seven important questions, I transformed my life for the better. You too can find greater happiness by engaging in this introspective process.
Section 1.1: What Can I Control?
Many hours can be wasted trying to manage how others behave. People-pleasing is often an attempt to control the environment around you, at the expense of your own needs. Setting boundaries was essential for me. I began to communicate my efforts to support my students effectively, assert myself against unfair treatment, and express my feelings to my family when they overstepped.
Subsection 1.1.1: How Does This Make Me Feel?
For too long, I suppressed my emotions, telling myself I could handle everything alone. I learned to identify and process my feelings through journaling and meditation, allowing myself to experience anger, sadness, and shame without judgment.
Section 1.2: Am I Letting Others Take Advantage of Me?
I often allowed certain individuals to exploit my kindness to avoid conflict, fearing rejection from my loved ones. However, I discovered that true love and respect come from standing firm in my own boundaries.
Chapter 2: Embracing Faith and Seeking Help
The first video, "7 Questions To Ask Yourself When You Don't Know What You Want," can guide you in this self-reflective journey.
Section 2.1: Am I Trusting in My Higher Power?
I had placed too much emphasis on controlling my circumstances, often feeling like a victim. Although I believed in God, I didn’t fully surrender my worries to Him. Learning to have faith and trust that things would unfold as they should was crucial.
Subsection 2.1.1: Am I Asking for Help?
For far too long, I suffered in silence, unaware of the support available to me. When I finally opened up, friends and colleagues stepped in to help. Seeking assistance is vital; connecting with someone who can provide guidance is essential.
Section 2.2: What Do I Want My Life to Look Like?
I yearned for happiness, which to me meant peace. However, I had no clear vision of how to achieve it. I began to define my future goals, envisioning the life I desired, the career I aspired to, and the person I wanted to become.
Section 2.3: What Is My Life Purpose?
My passion for working with children and helping others led me to consider how I could use my experiences to support women in similar situations. After taking a health coaching course, I committed to guiding others toward finding joy and peace.
You’ll Be Well on Your Way to a Happier Life
By honestly addressing these seven questions, you can embark on a path to greater happiness. When you allow yourself to be vulnerable and examine your feelings, needs, and aspirations, you will begin to feel a sense of peace and fulfillment.
If you're seeking assistance in understanding your behaviors, including people-pleasing and emotional suppression, I invite you to explore my free resources and coaching programs.