Chapter 1: Breaking Free from Expectations

Life often seems scripted: attend school, secure a job, marry, raise a family, retire, and then pass away. This conventional blueprint is what society expects of everyone. It's echoed in media, echoed by friends, and reinforced by family, educators, and role models. However, the reality is that no one has the authority to dictate your path or feelings.

The influence of societal norms goes beyond actions; it extends to how you should experience your emotions. Many individuals fail to recognize that the expectations surrounding your feelings can be just as stifling as those concerning your actions. The pressure to conform to what you "should" feel can lead to a disconnection from your genuine emotions, resulting in unfulfilled dreams and dissatisfaction.

When you believe you ought to feel a certain way, you risk suppressing your true feelings, often viewing them as negative. This creates unnecessary stress and can lead to a cycle of self-blame. Over time, this can evolve into learned helplessness—a significant contributor to depression.

It's vital to understand that there are no "right" or "wrong" emotions. What you feel is simply what you feel, regardless of societal standards. Just as your preferences for food are unique and uncontrollable, so too are your emotional responses. Emotions such as sadness, joy, anger, or fear are all natural. Society may suggest that you shouldn't feel scared when interacting with others or that you shouldn't express anger when wronged. This is simply misguided.

Everyone, no matter how successful or content they appear, experiences a range of emotions. Your feelings are valid and deserve acknowledgment. No one can truly comprehend why you feel a certain way or what the "correct" emotion is for you. The emotion you're experiencing right now is the only one you can authentically feel at this moment.

Instead of stressing over how you think you should feel, accept your emotions as they are. Your feelings do not dictate your actions, nor do they define your worth as a person. If you wish to change how you feel, you can certainly take steps to do so, akin to choosing a different meal. However, this does not render your emotions as inherently good or bad.

Your life is not preordained, and there's no definitive guide to living it or feeling about it. The only right way to live is the way you have chosen for yourself. When you compare your experiences solely to your own, you will always be correct in your choices.

Release the notion that you must adhere to specific actions or feelings. Instead, prioritize what brings you joy. Savor the foods you love without guilt, engage in activities that make you laugh, and surround yourself with those who uplift you. Embrace the emotions that arise, even if they are uncomfortable.

Your life is your own to navigate, free from rigid expectations. Explore the world on your terms, without any "shoulds" or "musts." Live authentically, according to your desires.

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