A Newborn Family — The Fresh Start

At the onset, the focus shifts to one another, filled with novelty, excitement, and a burst of positive emotions, devoid of fatigue. Every detail of the day is intriguing: how it unfolded, activities undertaken, and plans for relaxation.

A Small Child — The Young Family

This stage brings a mix of joy and challenges. The family unit, like a young child, evokes laughter and shared secrets understood only by its members. While there's a sense of ease as everyone adapts, there’s also the dawning realization that this commitment is long-term. Now, collaboration is necessary, and if there are disagreements, discussions become essential.

A Teenager — The Family with Growing Pains

Suddenly, everything that once felt perfect seems to change. Patience and empathy are crucial as you navigate the complexities of relationships. What was once cherished might now be met with resistance. “But with my friend, everything is different!” can echo in conversations, reflecting a longing for those simpler times. The advice from Dolto about maintaining friendships serves as a reminder of the importance of mutual understanding.

An Adult — The Experienced Family

Having weathered various crises and challenges, the family emerges wiser and more resilient. Inner conflicts are tamed, and a sense of acceptance takes hold. The focus shifts to finding joy in the familiar and mundane, fostering a deeper understanding of oneself and others. Life may feel repetitive, but this predictability brings comfort and tranquility.

While this analogy may not be scientifically grounded, I find it resonates deeply. In the early stages of family life, joy comes easily, but as time goes on, effort becomes necessary. It’s like the joke: “Either clean up the mess or start anew.” Families, too, require ongoing engagement; expecting only joy without facing challenges may lead to a cycle of constant change. Each individual must decide how to navigate this journey.