What is Your Greatest Fear in Ending Your Marriage?

The morning after Ken's departure, my daughter entered our room and immediately noticed his absence.

"Where's Dad?" she asked.

"Dad is out," I replied.

"Let me make breakfast. Do you want anything?"

"No, thanks," I said, moving to the kitchen where I found the kids preparing for school. It was 6:39 AM; they needed to leave by 7:19 AM. I took a seat at the table, trying to maintain a sense of composure.

"Where's Dad?" Zyion inquired.

"Dad left last night," Kenzy answered.

"With that woman," Zyion exclaimed, his voice filled with hurt.

"Who are you talking about?" I asked, feeling the tension rise. "We don't use that kind of language here."

Zyion, crying, said, "Mom, my friends say that criminals are called bad names. Google says they steal and hurt people. She took your husband. She's a thief, Mom; I despise her."

Kenzy added, "She ruined our family. Now, Dad's gone."

I knew it was time for a serious conversation.

"It's painful to know that Dad and I won't be living together anymore. But we'll do everything we can to ensure you're okay. It's normal to feel angry. If you think she's bad, then Dad's made mistakes too. We're getting a divorce, but he can still visit whenever he wants."

We embraced, tears flowing freely.

"I think we should take this week to be together at home. Your grandmas and Arina are here to support us. We will get through this. It’s okay to be upset; I feel the same way. Would you like to stay home this week to help us all adjust?"

The room fell silent as the weight of our situation settled in. I had rehearsed my words during the night, and it had helped me immensely. As a mother, I strive to understand my children, and I know that divorce can have lasting effects if not handled with care.

The Impact of Divorce on Children

Divorce can leave lasting scars on children, but staying in a troubled marriage can be just as damaging. The ripple effects of family discord can extend far beyond our home and into the community. History has shown that many leaders with troubled backgrounds often struggle with their roles, as seen in the lives of figures like Idi Amin and Nixon.

The following week, as the kids returned to school, I focused on finalizing the divorce papers. My partner Joy reviewed the documents and offered suggestions, but I knew what I wanted. She visited to share her own story, revealing that she had cheated on her husband years ago and regretted not divorcing at that time.

"Congratulations, Uyai," she said. "You're brave, and I believe things will work out for you. You have a supportive family behind you."

Finding Strength in Adversity

Trust in yourself and allow others the same. Life is often more challenging than we wish to admit. Even those who appear to have it all, like Oprah Winfrey and Elon Musk, face trials.

Preparation is key when navigating difficult times; it helps us cope with disappointment and betrayal, allowing us to rise again.

When Ken visited the kids, he acted as if nothing had changed, and they seemed comfortable with him. Children can often forgive, but only time will reveal the impact of this transition.

For me, the divorce feels definite, even without signed papers. As I ponder how to adapt to this new reality, I cling to hope. I believe that despite the challenges, we will not only survive but thrive.

Uyai’s story #12 continues here.

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