1. Lack of Gratitude

I sometimes behave like a child who doesn't appreciate the gifts they have. I often overlook my blessings, fixating instead on what I lack. This tendency often intensifies when I scroll through social media platforms like Instagram or Pinterest.

In a phase of constant self-comparison, I found myself feeling envious—whether wishing for a ring on my finger, a different home, or greater financial stability. This relentless pursuit of more prevented me from recognizing the value of what I currently possess.

“Do not ruin what you have by yearning for what you do not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.” — Epicurus

This attitude of ingratitude has diminished my self-confidence and joy, adversely affecting my relationships. Shifting my perspective towards appreciation has made me aware of how incredibly fortunate I am. I now see that I am realizing dreams I once thought unattainable—like my ideal job, an online income, and achieving educational goals.

2. Avoidance and Denial

Learning personal responsibility is one of life's most valuable lessons, one that should be instilled at an early age. We are accountable not just for our mistakes but also for the positive changes we can create in our lives.

A bad habit that I unknowingly adopted was one of denial and avoidance. I consistently evaded ownership of my circumstances, failing to acknowledge that my life is shaped by my choices.

“The first principle is that you must not deceive yourself — and you are the easiest person to deceive.” — Richard Feynman

This habit stunted my growth and led me to wallow in self-pity, making me unpleasant to be around. Confronting this behavior has empowered me to concentrate on my aspirations, bolster my self-belief, and cultivate the confidence necessary to effect change in my life.

3. Ignorance

What kind of individuals do we become if we choose not to be curious?

Ignorance, in its various forms—be it a lack of empathy or a refusal to seek knowledge—has significantly impacted my life. As a writer, I possess the skill to conjure ideas from thin air; however, I often misdirect that creativity into negative narratives.

“Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored.” — Aldous Huxley, Complete Essays, Vol. II: 1926–1929

Rather than embracing curiosity, I would often shy away from asking questions or understanding different perspectives. I would stubbornly cling to my beliefs, assuming I was right.

Recognizing and addressing this ignorance has fostered humility and curiosity within me, making me a happier and more empathetic individual. Stepping away from ignorance has lessened my anger and frustration, allowing me to understand people and situations that previously triggered resentment.

As I mentioned earlier, emotional and mental habits can be detrimental to our well-being, often going unnoticed.

I hope that my reflections on these negative emotional habits inspire you to evaluate similar patterns in your own life.

“Be the designer of your world and not merely the consumer of it.” — James Clear, Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones

The initial step in breaking a habit is recognizing its existence. The next is to identify a positive habit to adopt in its place. When feelings of ingratitude arise, I encourage you to celebrate your achievements and acknowledge the beauty in your life. When the urge to escape problems strikes, choose to confront them and accept your role as the author of your narrative. Lastly, when temptation leads you to ignorance, lean into curiosity and maintain humility as you grow in understanding.

Thank you for reading! Wishing you all the best on your journey.

Kindly, Katie