Chapter 1: The Journey Ahead

In the quest for sobriety, there's a compelling insight that resonates: “I want you to stop feeling so intensely. Instead, focus on taking action.” These words from Dr. John Delony struck a chord with a caller who had maintained sobriety for four years and mirrored my own thoughts perfectly.

It's been eye-opening to discover that some individuals find themselves emotionally numb, unable to access feelings ranging from anger to joy. This perspective was foreign to me, as I experience emotions with profound intensity. I feel deeply—every rustling leaf brings sensations; my sadness, joy, frustration, and elation are vivid. While this emotional depth can be beautiful, it often hampers productivity, pushing me to seek balance.

Since I embraced sobriety 14 months ago, my emotional landscape has expanded. I’ve realized that alcohol served as a means to dull my feelings, as I struggled to cope with them. Now, without that crutch, I am immersed in an array of sensations that can sometimes feel overwhelming. Yet, I find myself wrestling with the idea that while many are encouraged to embrace their emotions, I might benefit from a different approach—one that promotes action rather than prolonged reflection.

Recently, I felt a sense of validation listening to an episode of The Dr. John Delony Show, where he engaged with a caller who felt adrift despite his sobriety. It’s a reality many sober individuals face: the absence of substances doesn’t equate to an absence of challenges. The caller likened his situation to a “rats nest,” a metaphor I found both relatable and poignant.

Dr. Delony's advice was striking: “I want you to stop feeling so much. I want you to start doing.” He suggested setting specific goals, acknowledging that the caller's sense of identity had been shaken. He encouraged the caller to recognize five positive actions he contributes to the world each week.

This perspective resonated with me. Often, we are inundated with messages that urge us to delve deeper into our emotions, yet it’s clear that each of our journeys is distinct. What works for one may not work for another. I have gradually come to realize that my path entails action, movement, and engagement rather than dwelling in my feelings.

Section 1.1: Moving Beyond Feelings

While many are advised to slow down, rest, and engage with their emotions, I find that I thrive through activity and creativity. I plan to take Dr. Delony’s advice to heart, establishing a routine that encompasses both self-reflection and action.

Subsection 1.1.1: Embracing Movement

I will create lists detailing the positive contributions I make, ensuring I stay connected to my purpose. If I find myself lacking in meaningful actions, I will seek out opportunities to give back. Writing and sharing my experiences on Medium will remain a priority, as will physical activities that bring me joy: rollerblading, swimming, dancing, painting, hiking, biking, and leisurely walks with my dog.

Movement serves as a conduit for processing my emotions, allowing me to release them and grow stronger in the face of challenges. It’s not merely physical exercise; it encompasses volunteering, creative endeavors, and any activity that fosters movement.

Chapter 2: Additional Insights

The following video delves into managing sobriety during challenging seasons, offering perspectives that might resonate with your journey.

In "Staying Sober (or Cutting Down) Over Winter," the discussion centers on navigating sobriety during difficult times, providing insights and strategies that can be beneficial for those on similar paths.